Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

Since wedding season has officially begun, I have been thinking about all of the things I wish I had done or known when planning my wedding day nearly six years ago. There was no such thing as Pinterest! Gasp! Am I really that old?!?  

My wedding day was absolutely wonderful! But there are a few things I wish I had done differently, and a few things I did right, so I am sharing them in hopes you can make sure your own day is truly special.

IMG_0121 {DON’T} stress the small stuff.  Seriously, something will go wrong, even if it’s just something small like a bridesmaid wears the wrong earrings. Or the sound system cutting out during the middle of the ceremony {yep, it happened to us}.  But most people won’t even notice or remember those things.  They’re more focused on you— it is your day after all!

{DO} hire a videographer.  I know this seems like just an extra expenditure if you are already paying for a photographer, but it will be worth it.  This is something I didn’t do, and I regret it so much.  I love looking at the pictures from our day, but I so wish I could actually watch the wedding.  It’s such a blur in my memory now.

IMG_4935 {DO} hire a photographer. A good one.  This kind of goes along with the previous “do,” but you will have those pictures for the rest of your life.  Hire a good photographer and tell them ahead of time what shots you want {i.e. posed or candid, with certain family members or members of the bridal party, etc.}.  I am so thankful that I had the photographer that I did.  He was fantastic!

{DON’T} forget to have a minute or two alone with your new husband during the festivities.  Every time I turned around, Jeff and I had been pulled in opposite directions.  I was thankful we had a couple of minutes to ourselves between the ceremony and reception.

{DO} have bridal portraits done.  For some reason, I think cost, I didn’t have bridal portraits done.

IMG_0139 {DON’T} let someone talk you into something for the wedding that you don’t want to do {or talk you out of something you really want to do}.  Now, I’m not saying be a bridezilla and throw a temper tantrum whenever you don’t get your way.  But, if it’s something important to you or something that could really affect the wedding, stick to your guns.  One thing I had to put my foot down on was the number of guests.  My in-laws wanted me to send invites to all of these extended family members of Jeff’s that they never saw or talked to.  Due to limited space and cost, we could not accommodate all of those people.  Even though my in-laws didn’t think those family members would come {they just wanted us to send the invites as a courtesy}, I said no and I am glad we did.  It would’ve been so stressful if they did decide to come with the limited space we had.

{DO} enjoy YOUR day.  It is one of the few times in your life that the day is all about you and your new husband.  Enjoy every minute of it!

IMG_5085 Also, {DON’T} have an outdoor ceremony in August. It’s HOT. ;-)


Do you have an advice for soon-to-be brides? If so, share it in the comments!


***This is in no way a sponsored post, but I have to give my amazing photographer, Keith Ketchum, the credit he deserves!  Check him out at



Today is my husband’s 27th birthday!

As I was thinking a couple of days ago about his approaching birthday, I realized that we’ve spent 1/3 of our lives together.  WHOA.  We started dating in high school and in some ways that seems like just yesterday, and in others, it seems like that was a lifetime ago.


So in honor of his birthday, I thought I would list out 27 things that I love about him {and share some pictures of him that will make you wonder how we ever manage to get good ones}:

1 // His smile.

2 // His patience.

3 // His laugh {yes, this is different from his smile!  His laugh is infectious}.

4 // The way he loves his family.


5 // His loyalty— don’t mess with someone he cares about, it won’t end well for you.

6 // He’s tall!

7 // His curly hair {I sure hope our future kids get that from him! Mine is stick straight}.

8 // He’s a really good cook.

9 // He’s smart.  Like really smart.  He underestimates himself.

10 // His beard.  He grew it out about 18 months ago and I tell him all the time that he can’t ever shave it.  There’s just something about a man with facial hair…


11 // He’s such a gentleman.  To this day, he still insists on opening the doors for me whenever we are walking together.  He also holds it for anyone else around us.

12 // His respect for his parents and mine.

13 // His protectiveness for me and women in general {want to see him get angry, turn on an episode of SVU where a woman has been hit or raped or hurt in any fashion.  He’ll seriously turn it off or walk away he gets so angry, and that’s not even real}.

14 // His amazing ability to calm me down when I’m upset.

15 // His humor.  This man has me in fits of laughter a LOT.

16 // He’s introverted.  Since I am extroverted, this has helped balance me out over the years.

17 // He’s quite the craftsman.  He and his dad have built an entertainment center, a coffee table, and are currently working on a bed for us!


18 // He vacuums and scrubs the toilets.

19 // He loves video games {he’ll be very surprised to read this, because usually I complain about how much time he spends playing them, but really, I like that he has something he enjoys.  And I’ll take video games over football— or any sport for that matter— any day}.

20 // He challenges me.  He teaches me to be a better person.

21 // His hugs.  He can just envelope me and make me feel like nothing can ever hurt me with just a simply hug.

22 // His butt.  Sorry if that’s TMI, but he has one sexy rear-end.

23 // He’s a nerd.  And he’ll be the first one to tell you that.

24 // His dance moves {except for when we are in the car— he purposefully does it when others can see just to embarress me lol}.

25 // He is passionate.  Get him talking about something he loves and you might not be able to shut him up!

26 // He knows every word and can rap the entire “Ice, Ice Baby” song.

27 // He’s mine.  Sorry ladies…


An Interview with the Hubby

The other day, I stumbled on A Beautiful Little Adventure‘s interview with her husband, and I thought it was such a cute idea that I just had to do one with my hubby!


my hubby and my brother-in-law have a weird bromance

Me: What is the name of my blog?
Jeff: Simply Sophisticated Blog

Me: What do I typically write about?
Jeff: Umm… you usually do Five Friday post and you talk about Hashimoto’s and health stuff and your general opinion on things. {well that was good summary}

Me: What’s a popular fashion item for women right now?
Jeff: Shoes. {and then proceeds to literally laugh out loud}

Me: Why do women go to the bathroom together?
Jeff: I don’t know but when I was in middle school my friends called it the CBC “community bathroom club” and whenever we would see a group of girls going to the bathroom, we’d say “Oh there’s a CBC.”

Me: What do you know about Pinterest?
Jeff: It has ideas for everything in the world and people pin the things that they like.

Me: What is Hunter Wellie?
Jeff: A what??? I don’t know.

Me: What is our favorite thing to do together?
Jeff: Not clean. {omg this made me laugh out loud} We like the traditional dinner and movie date. We also like binge-watching shows together.

Me: What is the Pantone color of the year?
Jeff: Black.

Me: If you could have any job what would it be?
Jeff: I’d get paid to beta-test video games all day. {yes, my husband is a nerd}

Me: What about me?
Jeff: Stay-at-home wife with kids. called it! {let’s make that happen… SOON ;-) }

Me: What’s the best place to shop for women?
Jeff: LOFT {good boy}

Me: What does YOLO stand for?
Jeff: You only live once.

Me: What About OOTD?
Jeff: {quizzical look on his face} I don’t know. {When I told him what it stood for, he goes “oh shoot I did know that!”}

Me: What do I do when I’m home alone?
Jeff: Sit on the couch, blog, and watch Netflix or Hulu, and Facebook stalk.

Me: What is my favorite activity?
Jeff: See the previous answer.

Me: What do women keep in their purse?
Jeff: Everything. It’s like an extra-dimensional portal.

Me: And what do you do when you’re home alone?
Jeff: Play computer games, and watch TV shows, and think about you… {he’s such a suck-up}

Me: What’s my favorite accessory?
Jeff: It better be your Michael Kors watch {he bought it for me last year} but it’s probably your new Kate Spade watch {outlet shopping FTW}. Actually, it should be your wedding rings.

Me: What celebrity would you let me have a free pass with?
Jeff: None. You chose to marry me. Sorry.

Me: What celebrity would you like to have a free pass with?
Jeff: The author of the Simply Sophisticated Blog. I hear she’s pretty hot. {I cannot make this stuff up, I swear}

Me: What’s an acceptable amount to spend on a makeup item?
Jeff: $5. Realistically, $40, because makeup is ridiculously over-priced and a huge waste of money.

Me: What’s an acceptable amount to spend on a dress?
Jeff: $5. Hahaha realistically, $75. {I like this amount}

Me: What is your favorite trait about me, not physical?
Jeff: {he laughed when I asked him this… not sure how I feel about that} Uhh… your wit. You make me laugh.

Me: What’s my favorite TV show?
Jeff: Gilmore Girls.

Me: Who is a current celebrity “it” couple?
Jeff: I don’t know. Brangelina?!? {oh my gosh I laughed so hard}

Me: Anything else you’d like to say?
Jeff: Nope.


This was really fun to do! I laughed a LOT! If you decide to do onewith your husband, make sure to link it in the comments.  I’d love to read it!

5 Years

One of my favorite pictures from our wedding

Today is my 5th Anniversary.  I’ve been MARRIED for FIVE years… whoa!  I honestly can’t believe it in some ways.  Mainly because it just doesn’t feel like we’ve been married that long.  These last five years have flown by.  It really feels like it was just yesterday that I was walking down the aisle to say my vows to the man I was going to spend my life with.


The whole bridal party


My dad made our wedding cake and I am so glad the photographer got this pic. I will always treasure it.



When I said the words, “”I, Sophi, take thee, Jeff, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.” I had no idea just how encompassing those words would be.   We have definitely had better times and worse times.  We have been broke enough that we wouldn’t go anywhere all weekend because we couldn’t put gas in our car.  We have dealt with health issues, as I talked about here.   We haven’t always loved and cherished each other like we should, but we persevered through it all.  We’ve learned more and more what love really is.


My maid of honor, bridesmaids, junior bridesmaid, and flower girl


My dad and me


Another shot that I absolute love

Sometimes I miss the “newness” of the beginning of a relationship.  You know, where you are scared to hold hands at first, then you finally do for the first time.  The first date. The first kiss.  BUT I wouldn’t trade what we have for anything.  I am incredibly blessed to have found my husband.  He is the complete opposite of me in every way, and I love that.  He has shown me how to enjoy the small things, how to think things through instead of making a rash decision as I am very prone to do, how to be a true friend, how to be myself and not care about what others think.  I’ve shown him how to talk to just about anyone, how to be spontaneous, and how to dress.  Important values, I know…


We love to torture my brother. We did this same pose at my sister’s wedding too. I hope we also do it when my brother finally gets married so we have a shot at each wedding.


Our whole family


Holding up my dress so that the fan on the floor can cool me off… still not sure why we thought an outdoor wedding in August was a good idea. It was HOT!!! This picture makes me laugh though!

Even as I reminisce on these last 5 years, I can’t help but get excited about what the next 5 years hold for us!

officially husband and wife!

officially husband and wife!

On our honeymoon

On our honeymoon

 Happy 5th anniversary, Jeff!  I love you more than you know!

26 Reasons

Today is my husband’s 26th birthday!  In honor of his special day, I thought I would share 26 things I love about him (and a few photos too).

  1. I love his laugh.  It’s infectious.
  2. I love that I was his first kiss.

    At our Senior Prom

    At our Senior Prom

  3. I love that he is tall.  I’m 5’2″ and he’s 6’2.”  When he wraps his arms around me, I feel completely enveloped and safe.

    At my sister's wedding in 2010

    At my sister’s wedding in 2010

  4. I love that he is a nerd.  He’d rather play video games or watch Monty Python than watch football any day.
  5. I love that he is handy.  He might be nerdy, but he’s also pretty handy with a hammer.  He made this coffee table a few months ago:
  6. I love that he has a heart for teenagers.  We are both leaders in the youth group at our church, but he is definitely the re was the reason we are involved.  
  7. I love his calmness.  I tend to be very “fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants” and make rash, emotional decisions.  He is much more calm and thoughtful before making decisions.
  8. I love it when he dances in the car and doesn’t care who sees.
  9. I love his glasses (I might be a nerd at heart too lol). 

    Chicago 2011

    Chicago 2011

  10. I love that he doesn’t check out other girls (seriously, he doesn’t).  Definitely helps me in the self-esteem department!
  11. I love that he is really good with kids.  I can’t wait to have kids with him one day because he will be a great father!
  12. I love that he has held true to our vows, especially the part that says “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.”  I will probably touch on this more at a later time, but we’ve already been through some major financial struggles in our 5 years of marriage, and I have also had some health struggles, yet he’s stuck with me through it all.  

    Our wedding 8/2/2008

    Our wedding 8/2/2008

  13. I love that he is a morning person.  I am definitely not, but he’s starting to show me some of the benefits of becoming an early riser.
  14. I love his curly hair.  I sure hope our kids get that from him.
  15. I love how much he values his family.
  16. I love his smile.
  17. I love that he kisses me goodbye every morning before he leaves to work, even if I am not awake.

    Pinterest Pose!

    Pinterest Pose!

  18. I love how patient he is.  I can be quite a handful, especially since I have a little bit of a temper, but he is patient with me through all my crazy moods.
  19. I love that he calls me beautiful, even when it’s first thing in the morning and I have no makeup on, my hair is a mess, and I’ve got morning breath.
  20. I love his legs.  He has strong muscular legs— not tiny, scrawny legs like most guys.  (Is that too much info???)
  21. I love his fear of heights and roller coasters.  It’s very entertaing to get him scream like a little girl if I can actually convince him to get on one.

    Due to his fear of heights, he wouldn't take a picture with me sitting on the wall. I couldn't stop laughing.

    Due to his fear of heights, he wouldn’t take a picture with me sitting on the wall. I couldn’t stop laughing.

  22. I love that he’ll watch Gilmore Girls with me… over and over and over…
  23. I love cuddling on the couch, watching movies, and just hanging out with each other.

    From our honeymoon in Gatlinburg TN

    From our honeymoon in Gatlinburg TN

  24. I love that he can cook.  He looks sexy in an apron.
  25. I love that he is a country boy at heart.  His dream is to have a bunch of land so he can have chickens and grow his own food.  Hopefully we’ll make that dream come true one day.
  26. I love that he is my husband. Plain and simple.

    Our 2nd Anniversary

    Our 2nd Anniversary

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